Blessing in Giving is sponsoring Share Our Strengths Great American Bake Sale!  Share Our Strength, is a national organization that works to ensure that no child in America grows up hungry. They bring together a network of community groups, activists, and food programs to ensure that children at risk of hunger have nutritious food where they live, learn and play.

We have a Team “Blessing In Giving’s Bakers and Angels” ! You can support this cause and help Blessing raise money for Share Our Strength. You can join our team by following the link above or using this link .

We look forward to joining forces with you and helping to fight Childhood hunger in America.

She asked if we could help her cousin. She would help if she could but as I said, she is a single mom and really does not have the extra resources to help.

This is what Blessing in Giving was founded for. To help people like this….in need. These ladies are representative of both of our causes…they are single moms and have a bereavement need. I want to help them. I will keep you updated. Please pray for Nicole and Jaida’s mommy.

We would like to thank all of you for your donations as we well as Hope House of Indiana, who donated a truck load of wrapped presents for our families and many others.

Our hope is that in the coming years we will be able to help even more families. As of right now we already have a jump on Christmas 2010. We have about 4 large boxes of presents for this Christmas and will continue to take donations all year.

If you would like to make a donation just use our contact form to make arrangements for drop off.  Unwrapped toys for all ages, as well as any appropriate new items for moms or dads are accepted.

Bless you!

I hope that this site may be able to offer some help.

Coping with Grief and Loss

I am writing today to pull at your heart strings a little in the hopes that I can get some donations from you…I might as well put it right out there!!

I got a call from Bobbi Gray with Partners in Care at Hendricks Regional Health. She has a family that lost their baby last yer and still have not been able to afford to put a headstone on the grave. She has asked Blessing if we would like to help. YES!  That is all I can think…YES!!!  What an opportunity to help another! I cannot imagine what it must feel like to be going through this, my heart goes out to this family and I want to help.

So, I have committed to asking for donations. I will start here. If you feel lead to help out, please use our donate button and help in any way that you can! No amount is too small! $5.00 is the minimum that our online system will take and that IS GOOD!!!

It is the season to think of others and count our blessings. What a better way could be presented to us than to help one of our fellow sisters and brothers to have closure on a very sad life event that I KNOW  none of us want to find ourselves in.

Bless you ALL !

If you care to donate a winter coat, new or gently used, please come in to the Avon Chick-fil-a !! We are accepting hats and gloves too!

Thank you for all of your help!

Blessing In Giving

There will be people there to wrap your gifts for you and Hendricks Regional will be there doing free blood pressure checks!

Come out and help us raise money for single parent families.  We will have information there as well as a drawing for a purse stuffed with goodies from Charlotte Russe! The tickets are FREE to enter the drawing but donations are always appreciated!

Hope to see you there!

Being a single parent had its trials, but none are harder to face than the financial burden of raising a child or several children on your own. Automatically, you go from having ample funds to trying to get by on an amount that is drastically cut in half. With the average yearly payment of child support barely rising above $4,500, it is easy to see why so many single parents struggle even with full time jobs.

Fortunately, there are programs that are available in order to offer financial assistance for single parents. These programs are need based, and offer varying degrees of support according to the specific needs of each family. While they can often be time consuming to apply for, the help and assistance that they offer are more than worth it.

Monetary Government Financial Assistance

There are many government programs available to offer financial assistance for single parents. These programs are always Need and Income based, and each family may qualify for a different level of assistance.

The first program that provides for a family’s essential needs is the Temporary Assistance for Needy Families program or TANF. This is a nationwide program offered under the Aid to Families with Dependent Children program, and is only offered for a limited period of time. This program offers both food assistance (in the form of an EBT card which is automatically loaded with funds each month) and cash assistance plan, that offers a small amount of money for essentials which is added to the same card. In addition, if a family qualifies for cash assistance in certain states they are also entitled to other benefits as well. Including free childcare, gas cards or bus tickets, and clothing vouchers for work purposes.

The US Department of Health and Human Services also offers a wide variety of programs which can offer financial assistance to single parents. These include the Low Income Home Energy Assistance Program, which offers assistance in lowering or helping to pay your monthly utilities. The Insure Kids Now – program, which holds a different name in each state. offers free or low cost health insurance for all children.

For housing assistance, the US Department of Housing and Urban Development offers programs to assist low income individuals in gaining accommodations. The HUD and Section 8 programs can provide free and low cost accommodations for families that qualify. Often the waiting list is long for these programs however, so it is best to apply as early as possible.

Local Sources of Financial Assistance

In addition to the federal funded programs that offer assistance, there are also a number of local agencies (in each city and state) which provide financial assistance for single parents. By dialing 2-1-1 from any touch tone phone, you can be placed in contact with an operator who can inform you about any resources that are available in your area. This is the easiest and quickest way to find the assistance you need.

Food banks are especially helpful for those who find themselves in dire need of food. If you are waiting for government assistance to begin, or need a little help from month to month, a local food bank can help you stock your pantry until help arrives.

If you are a single parent who has been battered or abused, there are additional sources of housing and financial assistance. Battered women shelters are scattered throughout each state, and almost every city has one. They can offer supplies, housing, and help in finding a new job in order to get you back on your feet. The YMCA also offers short term housing to those who are escaping a bad relationship.

My husband and I lost our son to a drug overdose – to the disease of addiction. I hope you’ll find these 10 steps helpful. There are probably more ideas that I could include to help you get through this process but I leave that up to you to add your own personal steps. For grief is a very personal journey.

Those of us who have suffered the ultimate loss – that of our beloved child – all experience profound heartbreak, but we don’t necessarily grieve in the same way. Some of us will turn to family traditions, others will turn to friends and clergy and others will flounder not having any idea how to survive this ordeal.

Of all the steps listed here I think acceptance is the hardest; it’s the one we fight against the most. We do not want to accept that our child is gone…but we must if we are to ever reclaim any semblance of a happy or normal life.

We will never again be the person we used to be and we must accept that and hope that our friends and family will also accept this new person we’ve become.

What has helped me the most since that devastating day of December 1, 2002, is the knowledge that our son would not want us to suffer. He loved us too much to want us to spend the rest of our lives in abject misery and despair. So I remember that. I live, knowing that this is what he would want for us.

I can now smile, enjoy a laugh, sometimes a really good belly laugh. But while I’m smiling and laughing on the outside, my heart is still broken. He is never more than a thought away. He would appreciate that but more than anything he would want me to accept this new life and smile. So I do. I wish the same for you.

1. Accept what fate has dealt you. This has to be the hardest step and in fact some might say this step should be at the very bottom of the list because it takes so long to reach this point. However, there has to be some initial acceptance of what has happened before you can truly progress to the next steps.
2. Cry, scream, rant and rave – whatever it takes to help get you through. This is not the time for self-control. If you need to unleash your fury, buy some old plates at a flea market or yard sale and hurl them with abandon at the fence or the ground. It’s amazing how this can relieve tension.
3. Listen to your own inner voice. Do not listen to the advice of others who may not know your heartbreak. Even if they have suffered the same loss as you, they are not you! Only you know how to grieve the loss of your loved one.
4. Understand that you loved passionately and that you will grieve passionately.
5. Do not put any unrealistic deadlines on your mourning period. Some cultures have placed a one year mourning period and wear black clothing for that duration. To think that you will be through with mourning and grief in one year is self-delusional. Ask anyone who has lost a child if a year is long enough to mourn and grieve.
6. It can help to write your feelings in a journal, recalling fond memories of your loved one. Things that you think you will never forget have a way of slipping down the thought hole in times of grief.
7. You might ask to have someone contact the doctor, or a nurse or funeral home director to cut a lock of their hair. You won’t think of that at the time but as time goes by you may find yourself asking why you didn’t get that lock of hair, just as you got the lock of hair during his or her first haircut.
8. If possible, ask for the clothing they were wearing when they died. This can be an enormous source of comfort to you, smelling their clothes, perhaps picking up the scent of their favorite cologne or perfume. Even cigarette smoke, if they were smokers, can cling to their clothing and will be meaningful to you because it is their cigarette smoke. Although the scent won’t last forever it can be a comfort to you in the initial time of mourning. Many people put their child’s clothing in a vacuum sealed plastic bag, opening it from time to time to inhale their child’s scent. This is not crazy, this is grief.
9. Even if you think you don’t need it, it is helpful to seek others who have suffered a similar loss. There are many bereavement support groups on the internet in addition to local groups such as The Compassionate Friends. It’s wonderful to share your grief in person with others but if you are a private person or have difficulty attending meetings, the internet can help you get through these trying times. You won’t find a local support group at 3 a.m. but you can go online and pour your heart out to your internet soul mates. Even if they aren’t online at that hour, you will at least be able to vent your feelings and know that soon someone will respond.
10. Acceptance – again. Accept that you didn’t cause your loved one’s death and that you can’t go back in time to change things. Try to avoid the What Ifs; (What if we had not divorced, what if we had not moved, etc.) they will only add to your grief and impede your progress. Remember that it’s not what happens to us in life, but how we deal with it. We choose our attitude. In the early stages of grief and mourning we don’t do much choosing. We just let our emotions wash over us and give in to them. That’s fine. That’s normal. But after a certain amount of time – that you determine – you begin wanting to live again, wanting to smile without feeling guilty. You will want to recall memories of your child with a smile. Healing tears will eventually be replaced by healing smiles.